“The other day, when I was reading something you posted, it hit me. YOU are the writer!”
I know, the title is going to get everyone’s panties in a wad.
You’ll get it.
I am 36 years old.
I have one HELL of a story to tell.
I’m not sure I’ll make money off of it, but it I do, I’ll have to A: change the names of the people so I don’t have to get their consent to tarnish their names, or B: Get consent from people I love dearly, to drag their names through the mud, because it’s a part of my story.
I remember when I was little. I remember going to church and loving Sunday school. I remember coloring and playing with other kids, praying at night for all of my loved ones and even all the strangers I never met, and never would meet to be safe. I was naive. I believed that if I prayed for EVERYONE, everyone would be safe. Then, one day, I was in shorts and a t-shirt, accepting Jesus into my heart as my lord and savior, as I was dunked into a pool of water in front of a congregation.
I was 7.
I remember, because I remember the look on my dad’s face when I told him I wanted to be baptized. It was a look I craved. A look of acceptance, of love, pride and happiness. I believed that Jesus was good and God loved all of mankind.
The older I got, the more confused I became. It wasn’t because of outside influences. It was because of everything I had read in the Bible.
I’m not going to bash the Bible, or God, or Jesus, or Christians.
I guess, I am writing this to say a few things. I am one of those “think outside the box” types of person. I know. You probably never would have guessed it, am I right? ha!
I have read the Bible. I have read it cover to cover a few times.
It. Makes. NO. Sense. It’s about as contradictory as anything could be.
But that’s okay. MOST of it is good guidelines for how to be a good person.
Jesus was this totally rad dude, who helped poor people, sex addicts, drug addicts, thieves and more! He totally loved them and taught them how to be good people. He proved to them that the choices they were making weren’t the only choices set out for them. He showed them that, although a rough road, a possible road. Right?
Totally cool guy. Loving, accepting, nurturing.
One of those guys you aspire to be like. Right?
Well, you don’t have to BELIEVE the Bible, to believe in the main character. Right?
Either way, my “faith” is different than it was when I was a child.
I have lived. I have observed. I have survived, and have stayed pretty damn level headed in the process.
At the point where one would finally break, I, instead, keep striving for better. Not to GET something better, but to BE something better.
When I was a child, I believed that I would forever be protected. Nothing bad could happen to cause heartache or sadness, or the things that I have experienced through my 36 years of life.
Boy, was I wrong.
I say something that I know may piss off a lot of people, but I believe it one hundred percent.
Everything happens for a reason.
I’m sure many people who are grieving right now want to reach through their screens and slap the ever-loving shit out of me, right now.
I believe it. You do not have to. But, I do. I always will.
I REALLY met Mitch at a point in my life where I was really ready to call it quits with dating. I honestly never wanted to see another man in a dating manner again. (That was my dramatic teenage mind)
He walked into McDonald’s, smiled his brilliant smile at me, and told me I was coming to his birthday party.
You read that right. He didn’t ask if I’d go. He told me I was going.
“Hey, What are you doing this weekend? Oh? going to my birthday party. Okay, We’ll pick you up at 6!”
I was stunned. I was shocked. I was ALREADY in love with that boy, and he didn’t even know. We were both 17 years old.
He walked into that McDonald’s on the most perfect night, with the best “invite” to a birthday party I had ever received.
I think if God is real, he laughed when I swore to all things holy that I would NEVER name my child Megan, when I was 15 years old…
Que the laughter…
My favorite human, aka my daughter, is Megan. I can’t even imagine her with a different name.
Just as I remember the first time he “asked” me out, I remember our last night together. I remember what he had for dinner. I remember what movie we watched. I remember the words he spoke, as if they were gospel.
I remember his hand as he held mine during that movie.
I remember the next day, when I walked… ran to the doors of the FedEx Hub only to be dragged into an office and told that he was gone. I remember thinking “There’s no way there is a god. There’s no way a god would take such a man from this earth. No way!”
I always joked with Mitch about how I didn’t remember life before him. I think I phrased it wrong. I remembered life before him, but it felt like another lifetime. Like everything was happening as it should .
When he died, I had that same feeling. Everything is falling into place. Everything is exactly as it should be.
I hate it. Megan hates it. Our families hate it.
But that feeling. Gawwwwwd that feeling.
I’ve thought so many times that if anyone knew how I felt, how I felt as thought this is meant to be, I’d be looked at as heartless.
Now, though, I know I am not. I know my family and my friends, my coworkers and my past coworkers know that I am not heartless.
Mitch, I believe, completed his mission here. Whatever his mission was, he completed it, and he did it FAST.
I can tell you that whoever was supposed to learn from him, learned well.
Whatever it was he taught, he taught it without knowing he did.
I feel like I was a part of his mission, but definitely not the whole of it.
He taught me to be kind, even when I didn’t want to be. He taught me to see everyone’s point of view, and not take sides. He taught me that I have the ability to be amazing, I just needed to put forth the effort. (still trying, babe!) He taught me, most of all, that good men did still exist. He taught me that there were really still good fathers. He taught me that I am so much stronger than I ever imagined I could be.
I could write a book about how much like Jesus Mitch was. He never “laid hands on” and “healed” people like the Bible says Jesus did, but he sure did heal people with his words, his kindness, his acceptance, and his love. He talked to everyone, and he helped everyone.
So, again, I say: I used to be a Christian.
Now, I no longer align myself with any one religion, but, I believe that something is out there. Something is in charge and we are mere pawns in a game.
Am I winning?
Am I losing?
I guess I will only know when I pass on to the next realm.
Until then, I will continue my path of love and acceptance. I will not intentionally harm anyone. I will cherish my family and friends. I will teach kindness, empathy, and happiness through example.