Ask them questions, but not about being a widow, or about their late husband or late wife.
Ask them how their job is. Ask them about their gramdkids. Ask them about their desires in life.
Ask them their drink of choice, and buy them a drink, even if it’s just an iced tea or a drink. Pepper.
Tell them they are strong, because they are. As a widow myself, I know the strength it takes to take each step every day. I know the feeling of being judged, for things that only feel natural.
I know the pain of wanting something more, but, being afraid of loss.
I know the feeling of loss. I know the feeling of fear that I’ll lose my extra family, if I fuck up. (Even if it is mostly an irrational fear).
I told my work fam that I was going to start dating. A woman, a coworker, who I love, very much tells me, every time I see her, “Tabbie, you know I think it’s too soon.”
Love you, lady, but, I will be the judge of that. Kissy face emoji.
I don’t take it bad that she tells me this. She cares about me. She worries about my heart, mind, and soul.
She also knows that I am very strong-willed and would never do anything that I had ANY doubts about. I only go full force if I am 100% sure.
I am 100% sure.
I’m moving forward.
I am taking each step as they come.
I am terrified, but excitement is there, as well.
I received the most amazing of messages, it had me crying my eyes out. And honestly, as I was screenshotting and cropping to hide the identity of the sender, I, obviously, read the messages again, and started crying… again.
Let your breath be stolen. And let it be stolen often.
Cherish those moments.
Love with your whole heart. It’s scary, but worth it. Holding back doesn’t allow for the full feelings to shine through. When you love wholeheartedly, you do things you would never do, in another case, or for another human. You go out of your way to make that person happy.
I’m not fully vested in astrology, but, I do feel very in Line with my sign: Libra.
My sign says I bring balance. I believe that. I feel that is a true assessment of who I am as a human. I hate an imbalance in fairness, love, friendships, etc.
I love to make people happy.
I can’t help it. I don’t do too much, to make people happy, but I will be damned if I have a friend or loved one who is upset About anything that I have done. I will work to make it better.
Anyway, I just wanted to share with y’all the amazing, heartfelt message I received. (Well, parts of it anyway).